Overcoming Our Fear Helps Us Live Our Lives More Fully!

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Overcoming Our Fear Helps Us Live Our Lives More Fully!

Most of you are filled with worry of 1 type or another: worry of change, worry of achievement, or worry of failure. We worry generating errors, being alone, ending relationships or beginning unique ones. Many people worry aging, rejection, abandonment, plus unemployment. Fear will keep you stuck inside the lives! It will keep you from ending harmful relationships or from exiting a function condition which is not a longer pleasing. In truth, it may keep you from achieving the objectives plus realizing the dreams! Whenever you are aided to move beyond the worries, you may lead lives which are both challenging plus fulfilling.

It is general for all you to feel worry inside brand-new instances, particularly whenever you are venturing into unknown territory. Therefore the query is, when we feel worry whenever entering into the unknown, why is it which certain folks can move forward inside their lives, despite their worry, whilst different people become paralyzed? The real issue then, is not the worry itself, yet how you hold the worry. If you hold the worry from a region of energy or choice, you may take action, despite the worry. If you hold the worry from a spot of pain or powerlessness, you become stuck or paralyzed.

Susan Jeffers, inside her book Feel The Fear plus Do It Anyway, divides worries into 2 categories: 1) Fear of factors which will arise to you, plus 2) Fear about taking action. She states which at the bottom of all the worries is the simple worry, “I can’t handle it”. If I lose my job, I wont be capable to handle it. If my boyfriend leaves me, I won’t be capable to handle it. If I return to school, what when I can’t handle it? What when you believed which any occurred to you, or any you did, you could handle it? What might there be left to worry?

Therapy could assist people to face their worries plus come out found on the different side of them. It could enable empower customers by training those to stop playing the “when / then” games. “When I stop being scared, then I’ll do it.” Or, “When I feel better regarding me, then I‘ll do it”. In truth, it happens to be just inside going out plus really doing what you are scared of, which you overcome the worry, plus because a outcome, feel better regarding ourselves inside the task! Psychotherapy may offer the encouragement plus help which people should overcome their worries plus to transform their lives.

3 comments

  1. does love really come and go i was with someone for four years and now they have completly stopped talking to me or was it never really love hes got a new gurl i have a new guy but i still want to be friends but he wont talk to me

  2. Me and my fam don’t get along.Ever scince my bro was born its like i’m not there.A few times i thought of leaving but with nowhere to go to.I have very little friends and my life revoles around books because they help me unwind.if my bro slaps me and I yell at him I’m the one that gets in to trouble.And it doesn’t help that my parents fight all the time.I wish I could say something to my family but I’m to chicken.And I would like to say something to my friends but I’m afraid they will say something to someone else.does anyone have anything that will help get all this trouble off my shoulders?But don’t say therapie or counsoling.

  3. I have been very sad the last few days trying to make a decision that I won’t end up regretting for the rest of my life. I really need some honest opinions and advice on what to do please. I have been with the love of my life for just about 2 years now. He is 30 and I am 28. We have never really talked all that much about having children, but here and there watching tv or being out in public if a pregnant woman was anywhere around or on tv, he would always make a comment like that’s so gross, or ugh. Something to that effect, I always thought he was joking or just making that comment. The other day we were driving somewhere and somehow the topic of children came up, whatever I had said his immediate response was “well if you want children you better find someone who does”. I was in complete shocked that he flat out said that to me. All I could say was wow that just put my life into perspective. He’s like “what”? I didn’t wanna talk about it at that moment cause it didn’t seem like the right time. Later when we got home, I told him his comment really bothered me, and asked him what the point of us being together was? That I feel like I wasted the last two years falling utterly in love with him and him not being straight out until now about this. Even with the comments here and there, I honestly thought his mind might change. He said he didn’t know. I know he loves me very much and I love him a whole lot as well. I did tell him that it’s not fair to me that he isn’t willing to provide a child. I have wanted to be a mother for a few years now and the more I think about it, the more I want it. I wanted it so bad with him. Because he thinks pregnant women are gross, I asked him if he would be up for adoption? He told me when he was younger his father was very abusive towards him and his brothers and he’s very scared that if he has children that he will end up to like his father. I understand this but also told him that YOU decide what kind of parent you are going to be, what happens in your past isn’t going to necessarily reflect how you parent. So with me asking him about adoption, I gave him the option of being a father or not, told him he could decide whether he wants to be in it’s life. That I really want to be a mom in the next 3-5 years. He doesn’t like the idea of having children period! I’m really stuck between a rock and a hard place, deciding what I want to do. I love this man with all my heart and I know he loves me a lot as well. We can see each other spending the rest of our lives together, but I’m having a hard time trying to incorporate a child into this as well, so I can have the best of both worlds:( I asked him if he would go see a psychologist? He said he would, but doesn’t know if that will help him get over his fear or how he feels about pregnant women. I guess that’s a start that he is willing to try and get help, but I am so damn confused and getting more sad by the moment. I don’t know what to do. If a psychologist can’t help, am I going to be okay with not having a child just to stay with the one I love? Do I move on? Do I wait and maybe he might change his mind? UGH Question after question. Someone pls help me think of something:(

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